a lovely friend, woman, mother, wife, scrapper passed away this morning because someone ran a red light. the shock has not yet worn off ... aleida was someone who always made me smile, always made me feel like there was a bright side, someone whose spirit and joy was contagious and infectious. there was talk of getting a group of us together at some point, and i couldn't wait. to actually meet this larger than life presence and drink margaritas and tell dirty jokes sounded like heaven.
and now she's gone. and i'm just so, so sad.
but in passing, aleida also taught me something. with a post she recently wrote on her blog. she challenged me to something i've been so terrible at doing - being IN my life. she wrote that one day she wouldn't be around and she suddenly realized the importance of passing off the camera and getting in front of it with her kids. maybe the photos won't be perfect. maybe i'll hate how i look. but my kids will have a record of me being in their life as more than the documenter, the cook, the chauffer, the nurse, the secretary, etc.
and the fact that aleida had this revelation so close to her own last day just gives me chills. how i will miss her, and already do. and to brandon and the kids, god bless you. my prayers are with you.